Motherhood and Family Dynamics (from personal reading)

4 April 2024

It is always good to bring up the humor! Laughing has the ability to break into belief systems; to loosen the hold on whatever the mind believes is truth or relevant to being. Sometimes it is better to be without any beliefs just open-minded and open-hearted. If you are empty headed then it is easier to go into life, to learn to trust life as you meet it if you are not filled with expectations or anything that you believe that you know. Knowing is valuabale up to a certain point then it becomes a limitation. It can limit one from expanding on any topic, so it is always a positive thing to be receptive, to be open, and to hear what the universe has to offer to you. You have a mothering instinct toward others and that is positive, that is love.

Advice on helping family members…family dynamics…You see this aspect of the mother standing right up. You want to change their circumstances, and this is typical of the mother.  If their child is in any danger or any type of circumstance that does not look to be completely open, you want to take them out of there. What is happening with the family is as if you are an empty vessel and you fill yourself up with your family’s emotions then you must return to your solitude and process them; empty them out of you. The challenge is not to get filled up with whatever is happening.

Use imagery. The next time you get into this type of conversation, imagine that you have a vessel. You can use something ancient if you like. Look up an ancient urn, a big one they used to keep olive oil in or wine, get some fine details on them. Find an ancient urn that attracts you; see some of the designs on it so you can remember. When your sister is emptying herself out, you are going to put all her emotions, everything she is emptying, into that vessel. You are going to do that by remembering. While you are having that conversation you will be outlining what is on there. If there is a sea creature, an octopus, you will imagine it and outline it as she speaks. In this way you are actualizing this process that we are giving you. You are making it happen by drawing with your mind those symbols that are already on the vessel. As she is bringing all her emotion up; you are transferring her emotion into the vessel. As she is going on and on, you are imagining all those symbols on the vessel. You don’t have to be totally focused on outlining; you do it leisurely when you are talking on the phone. In that case you can also have a photograph of the vessel, find one in a book…so that you have something you can refer back to. This way you will not absorb it, you will put it into the vessel; that is what it is for.